Living in the trenches....Thread #5

[Navyguy]

Well, last night was a bit of a reality check/fall back to earth. Things had continued to be really good until Tuesday night.

Everything was moving along well when I left for work Tuesday AM. I had a crazy day at work, and wasn't going to make it home in time to take the kids to their swim lessons, so I called W to let her know. She didn't answer, so I left a message. Right after that I got a call that the new tires for our minivan were in and ready to be installed. So I called W back to ask if she could take her other car instead of the van, so I could take the van in to get the tires put on. Again, no answer, so I left a message.

I figured she was busy getting the kids ready and out the door, so no big deal that she didn't answer. I got home from work and the van was there, so I took it to get the tires. After I had been waiting awhile for the tires and after the kids were done with swimming, I tried calling W again to let her know when I'd be home and see if she had any ideas for dinner. She picked up, but passed the phone to D5. I said hello to D5 and asked to talk to mommy. She picked up and was really unpleasant with me...all one word answers...just plain pissed off. So, I decided I'd just cut the conversation off and told her we'd figure out dinner when I get home and that should be in about 30 minutes.

So, I get home and we figure out dinner. W had already put S3 to bed because he threw a Wii-mote at D5. W, D5 and I played Wii for a bit and ordered pizza. I could tell something was wrong with W, but I had no idea what...she seemed upset with me, but I had no clue why.

So eventually, we went to bed and before bed I asked W if she wanted to tell me about her day. She replied no. I then asked her if she was mad at me, she replied no. So, at this point I kind of wrote it off as a bad day for W, and we went to bed.

When I got home from work yesterday (Wed), it was the same deal. W being very short with me and not wanting much to do with me. After the kids were in bed, we were sitting on the couch having dinner and I asked her if something was bothering her...and she kind of unloaded on me.

Told me that she's been feeling pressured and that I've been trying to "make" her talk to me a lot and that I've been touching her a lot. And that she's so sick of us having this same conversation over and over. I told her that I felt like in the past few weeks things had changed, and I didn't feel like this is the same conversation we've been having. The conversation pretty much ended there...W started to get upset and went outside to smoke, and I went to bed.

Not sure what's in store for me when I go home today...