I try so hard with the "I" statements myself. It is something that has stuck with me from reading DR.
I have run into some problems with it though. It might just be my particular H ?
When I use them to tell H how I feel about something he often accuses me of obsessing or dwelling on things too much. The same goes when I tell him I don't understand something or try to explain my perceptions at times.
An example would be:
I don't understand? I ask if I am bothering you out of politeness and I am told "there you go again."?
I have aslo found too many I statements will often get me labeled as a "typical female"
He is under the impression /making the assumption that my I statements are self-centered? That I am more concerned with me then anything else?
I still haven't figured that one out. It is hard sometimes to find a middle ground I guess.
At least it got you through a snafu with CJ though
Grumpy, sick men....ugh!
Hugz, Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
