Are there any midlife women who want daily sex?

[Bagheera]

And why do you think that will work? The whole thing with displaying anger doesn't work with her. What you're describing would result in her saying it's a turnoff when I'm angry like that.

I said nor implied anything about being angry, SSMGuy. In fact, you are absolutely correct in that being angry while delivering the message that I recommended (and follow-up actions) would be ineffectual. Let me add a couple of words to what I said:

It would have to start, however, with you doing something like calmly walking into the room where she hangs out, showing her the Playboy calendar, and quietly but earnestly telling her "I'm done with this now, and I don't want any other woman in the world but you. We're best friends, we've built a great family, we've shared more than half of our lived together. YOU are the one that I want -- not any of these." And then matter-of-factly tearing the calendar in half and throwing it in the trash can and calmly walking away from it. Then, to follow this action, you stop going to the strip clubs, stop going to the massage parlor, stop going outside of your marriage to get your sexual needs met. Earn her trust again and show her that you only want her, exclusively, not just for physical intimacy but for emotional closeness and intimacy as well.

There is no "anger" in any of that. Just your quiet resolve to begin setting things right.

-- B.