Treading water - time and patience

[NYCPeter]

I read that posting earlier - it all makes sense and I need to discipline myself to do so. What about during MC? Should I be less of an open book there? I don't mean to outright lie, but if direct questions are asked about my feelings.

I'm also doing a 180 (though one my W will not see or hear about). I always felt I shouldn't go and see a lawyer until it was absolutely essential (i.e. my W filed) - well I've set up an appointment for tomorrow PM. I need to know what the likely outcome would be of a D so I can prepare and protect myself.

Everything I have read indicates from a financial perspective I should expect to see around 1/3 of my salary. As my W is for the most part a SAHM and our income disparity is huge - one of the things that makes me sad is that I won't be able to provide a comfortable place for my girls to come and stay with me. My family lives in England and if we needed to sell the house there won't be much change left after paying realtor fees etc.

Oh well - where there's a will there's a way.