You asked for my thoughts on your sitch on COG's thread. Unfortunately this is totally uncharted territory to me. Virtually all my energy has been spent on WAW where W is telling you she wants to leave for her own reasons.
In your sitch, your GF truly seems to WANT to be with you in the worst way, but her family is outright preventing it through in your words verbal abuse and in my words manipulation. That is brutal!
I wish I could give you some guidance here. GF clearly feels trapped by her parents and has decided to bow to their wishes, although clearly fought the good fight for a long time...
About the only thing that I can think of would be to make the trip to visit GF's parents by yourself and plead your case / try to reason with them. Study up on the culture and try to determine if there is a gesture or sentiment you can express that will make a difference. Determine what is driving their fears / prejudice, and see if you can get to the root to alter how they feel about you as an individual versus just a representative of your culture in the abstract.
Unfortunately I don't really see another way, and the suggestion above is expensive, time consuming, and probably doesn't have a very high probability of success depending upon the parents.
Two things though -- (1) the parents will certainly respect you for making the trip and *may* begin to understand the depth of your feelings for their daughter, and (2) if you go to this length, you will not look back thinking "if only I had done..." -- i.e. it will give you peace of mind that you tried *everything* you could and nothing worked.
Sorry I couldn't be more helpful on this one
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
