WAH bringing over divorce papers

[Long_Way_To_Go]

It's been a long year, but I'm doing OK. I didn't think I would make it 3 months, let alone a whole year so I should be proud of myself. My heart is broken and I feel like it is such a waste to end our marriage. I've struggled a lot with the "why" question. I finally got him to give me an answer when he told me he was filing...

Me: Why are you choosing to end our marriage?
H: I want to be able to grow as a person and I feel like I can't do that while in the marriage.
Me: Why do you feel that you can't grow within our marriage?
H: I don't think anyone can really grow as a person while in a relationship unless it is a very special relationship.

He also went on to say that we could make the marriage work, but he feels like he has to choose between the marriage and himself and he is choosing himself.

Oh and one more...he was unhappy too long in the marriage and is too happy with where his life is going now to try to work things out.

How many more ways can he say that he doesn't want me anymore. I guess I'm finally getting it and it feels horrible.