last night w and I had a discussion about our upcoming preliminary visit with a d mediator. I listed my ideas on piece of paper and handed them to her. She agreed with everything on it, and I think felt a little sheepish because while she has(for another month) a good job she does not have a pension, and did not have anything that could be considered community property and was hence subject to division.

So, we agree on everything prior to going to mediator. I remarked to her that after we finish with the mediator the final product is an MOU stating the provisions of the proposed divorce settlement. But, I said the divorce will not happen overnight and she should be prepared for that. She immediately said that she is in no hurry for the d. I was struck by this. Don't know if this is a function of her leaving soon and not having a job lined up at her new destination(hence no health ins), or that she is starting to realize the magnitude of the decision she has set in motion. Either way, an interesting development. Any thoughts from other souls out there who have had a WAS and experienced anything similar? I am open to suggestions.
Thanks

m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!