Hide the fact that I posted here before? My posts are on the forum, available by searching. I though that would be obvious to anybody, just as it is to me every time I go and look at a poster's firsts posts. If I wanted to hide anything, I would have gotten a new ID. And really what difference does it make, except to note that I appear to be "stuck". I already tell you what the situation is.
Why come here, well, like I said several times, just to vent.
And again, for the umpteenth time, I'm not looking for advice, approval, or anything like that regarding going outside my marriage. What I get most out of this site is seeing other people's situations.
I'm well aware of the differences between masturbation frequency and partnered sex frequency effects. But I can tell you that even when I had the best partnered relationship period, what I said still applied. So the question might be, would it apply to me just as much now as then.
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Is it that you think pleasing YOUR w, is just too much work, compared to just having her put out w/no sexual return,
Have you not read anything I've written a dozen times? I have been trying for decades to let me pleasure her. I've given her countless lengthy back massages. I've stated repeatedly that I would like foreplay and sex to last a long time.
And you don't think I've had the tough talk with my wife? Have you read my thread?
As for "not telling" my wife about other women, my approach which I have actually done, as opposed to wishing I would do, has been to tell her about other women I know and generally what we did because it can't hurt my goal. If a woman seems interested in me generally and we talk or work together at work, etc., I tell my wife about it. The way I figure it, if she feels someone else might catch my eye, she might be motivated to step in. If not, then I don't feel I'm hiding anything that might happen if she takes the attitude that I can do whatever.
And no, if I were to cheat, it would not be because my ego was hurt, etc. That's your interpretation. I'm curious about sex and I like it, period. And if you see that as the only way to get sex for a long, long time, it's tempting.
