W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Well feel like I have done pretty good at not worrying about my W or contacting her unless necessary or she contacted me. She emailed me yesterday asking how our S was since I had him for the last couple of days. I said he was good and had a good time playing with him. She then emails me moments later asking if she can transfer money out of our savings to her account and how much we have in our other savings account. I ask her how much she was going to transfer and if it was to fix her car or other things. She said I will transfer X dollars which happens to be half the amount in there. I have already transferred my half out of the account into a savings that I have not touched and I told her that when I did it a while ago but I don't think she remembers. I told her ok you can transfer the money and didn't have to figures on the other account with me. I'm not excited about her asking this because I think she has racked up debt already and needs money to make payments on credit cards. It feels like she keeps pushing on situation down the slippery slope even farther. I know she needs to fix a hole in her bumper that recently happened and I said that was fine but I doubt the money is for that.

I'm not sure the no contact is working or not but I'm sticking to it for now. Last time I talked to her I did set rules about coming to the house to get stuff that she needed to contact me first so I think we are ok there.

I'm working on GALing and will be hanging out with a buddy that is going through his own marriage problems. I have not hang out with this friend for a long time. It should be good.

I'm working on my fix-it or control behavior that I think it is my problem in the marriage. I recognize it and I'm doing 180 for it. i don't know where this is all going and it feels like my wife is deadset on her decision. I'm starting to loose confidence in her and this situation. I will give it more time to see.