Do what I can but still have questions 4

[soccerwife]

The conversation last night went great as far as I am concerned. I let H say whatever he needed to get things off of his chest, I didn't argue my POV (because it has already been stated so many times and I never get anywhere), I didn't conceed to his agenda, and I didn't let him be disrespectful. I did encourage his positive feelings and actions, show him that I am making positive changes in myself, and gained control by relinquishing control.

I am so surprised with myself. I didn't cry at all, and never even had the urge to cry. It was actually pretty easy. I am so much stronger than I was when I first joined the DB community. I am so proud of myself.

I still have a long road ahead of me and still have moments of doubt, but my hope that H will make the right choices grows every day, despite all of the things he is saying and doing at the moment. Believe nothing you hear and less than 50% of what you see... this is so true. His actions continue to downspiral, but he has begun to agree that he is being a bad person. Baby steps.