MMF,
I know you have already heard this, but I want to offer my support and encouragement for the approach you are taking. I'm doing almost exactly the same thing you are, although the circumstances are a little different (still legally M, for one). I firmly believe that it is the right thing to do in God's eyes, no matter how many people think it's ridiculous, whether or not they are believers. I cannot speak for anyone else or what God tells them, but if I think God is telling me to do something and I don't do it, I'm at fault. Following what I believe to be divine instructions is sometimes extremely difficult and/or unpleasant, but it gives me peace, despite the occasional Greek chorus of dissenters.

I also want to say that miracles do happen. This is going to sound tongue-in-cheek, but I'm actually serious: If my 19-year-old cat (which is 90-something in cat years!) can start using the litterbox consistently, after more than THREE YEARS of refusing to so much as set foot in one, with no apparent reason beyond a change of residence, I will definitely count that as a miracle. I believe it would be on par (in unlikelihood, at least) with the possibility of M restoration. And if you don't, well, all I can say is that you haven't been the one trying to get years' worth of urine out of the carpet of a house you were trying to sell.

Keep soldiering on down that narrow road, MMF, and everyone else who wants God's will more than their own desires. Keep that antenna tuned to God, and allow yourself to make course corrections as needed.

Peace and blessings,
Dawn


Me 45/H 47, no kids
Together since 1985; M/1992
Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001
Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues
H left 11/24/08
minimal contact, no legal action
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