Hi, Wretched. Thanks for dropping by my thread and for your encouraging words. Even though I've been having marital woes for 3+ years now, I still feel like a newbie myself, as only recently I've REALLY started to DB properly. So take my advice for what it's worth....
I've taken my clues from DR on when to bring up R talk with my H. I gave things a couple of good weeks between us, and I totally went with the flow. He started texting me and calling me often again, he started talking to me about his job again and he started being affectionate and saying ILY again. If he had pulled back when I brought up the R talk, I simply would have given him some more time & space and tried again when I thought the time was right.
We've now agreed on a goal date for living together again, so now we start the tough work...telling each other what has to change in order for the marriage to work.
I think often of you, since our situations have quite a bit in common, and I hope the very best for you and your family. I do think your H is still very much invested, so I think chances of your reconciling are good. Just don't make the stupid mistakes I did the first 2 times I got the bomb. Take your time. It's your marriage, so it's worth it.
