Since I last posted 8 days ago, XH has sent me 6 emails. Three of these were updating me about his medical appointments and his health status. So far I've only responded to XH's email saying his biopsy was finished. I responded with 2 short emails, asking him to follow the post-procedure instructions. I haven't replied for the past week because I've been busy and frankly I'm bored with the dynamic XH and I have had. A few days ago, XH emailed to tell me it was my turn to play the online game (haven't played in over a week --- better things to do). Then when I didn't respond, he sent me a link to a news story about women in the workplace that he thought would elicit a strong reaction from me. I laughed when I saw it because it seemed like an obvious attempt to elicit a response from me. I still didn't respond. I've been busy. .........Then today I received a medium-length email telling me about a visit XH had to another specialist today. He signed it "Love, Mr. G". That's the 2nd time in 2 weeks that XH has signed a note to me "Love, Mr. G" (the other time was my birthday card). ..........This is strange. XH and I used to give each other sweet cards all the time (every month on the date we met for the first 4 years of our R) and he always signed them that way. He's only done that 1-2 other times since the bomb.
I think XH's health concerns have frightened him and I see this contact as his way of reaching out to someone who has always been nurturing in the past. My sister thinks that once this health scare passes, XH will resume his previous attitude toward me. I feel like not responding and letting XH lean on BMF to see what kind of emotional support he can get from that narcissist when the "rubber hits the road". .........At the same time, XH HAS reached out to me several times and it is just common courtesy to respond in some way. I would do at least that much for a neighbor.
If any vets see this I would value your feedback. Maybe some of you have been through similar situations. I'm tired of the MLC XH but I would like to keep the door open in the event that someday XH faces his demons and emerges from his MLC.
Any feedback is welcome..........Oh, and BTW, XH is supposed to receive his biopsy results tomorrow.
