lc, Thanks so much for updating. It's good to hear how things are working out for you - and so useful to know about the specifics of how you're dealing with this phase.
I am in awe of your ability to change the way you interact with him. You really have made massive progress. Way to go!
One question I'd like to ask concerns when you felt that it was ok to start talking about your relationship with H. I know in my case it's all too soon, and H would not be happy at all to keep going over and over stuff (as he puts it).
But how did you broach it, or when did you feel ok about chancing it? Or did you wait for him to make a start?
It's probably not something you can even remember - things just unfold, I know. But you know how desperate we newbies are for signs that things might be changing for the better...
