OK, so she expresses her needs, you validate... great...
Then the course of action you take is, to ask if there is any other way you can "fix" and provide for her needs...
Where is the "NYC needs" in the equation?
What's not being communicated is... that she is understanding that YOUR NEEDS dictate that moving out is NOT an option and being without your kids is NOT an option...
Since the only thing you can do is control you... then how do you communicate that while you do understand her needs, her needs directly conflict with your needs...
I understand what you are saying... and I'm stumped, too...
She might THINK you are not listening... can you confirm she has been listening to your needs... and that they directly conflict with her needs... and that some other solution has to be arranged...?
