I got a call early regarding some money I was getting for putting a deal together for a friend. It all looks good and is about 5k sterling, I thought straight away of a holiday with the kids, Disney or something? I text wife to call me when she got chance, she's at work
About 1 hour later no reply, so I called her at work to find out she was on holiday? So I called her mobile, she answered but sounded upset I had called ? I mentioned the holiday and if she was ok with me taking them away, she was fine about it but had an edge to her voice, so we ended call all well
When I picked the kids up tonight we were talking and I said she looked tired, then she started about all the stress she is under, so I asked why?
Firstly she mentioned that she feels under pressure from me, her parents, etc to be a good mother and always do the right thing? She said her parents were not talking to her because of me telling them about all her lies, but she said she wasn't bothered and they interfered too much , she said that she had told them too much about mine and her problems and they pushed and lent her money to leave me initially? I said they just cared about her? But she thought they had too much to say, I just said that was between her and them
She said that she felt her life was under the microscope and was sick of everything
She then started on me because I have stuck to out agreed days I have the kids, basically her work wanted her to stayover a few nights, but because of childcare and the fact she wouldnt ask me, had caused her problems there, she sounded really unhappy with work, I think the pressure of the job, childcare,and us are getting to her? I just sympathized and said I understood
She them started on us, she said that we were getting on great, but the fight we had a few weeks ago had upset her, she said that if I wanted to get back together do I think fighting is going to help? I agreed with her and apologized
She the started about om, she said that he was just a really nice person to talk to, that I had neglected her,when drinking, and she was very lonely Again I said I understood, but it was hard to see the woman I love with om
She was rambling about a lot of things, mainly in the past etc
I mentioned the kids being upset at what was happening, she said they would be fine, they had lived with a drunk father for a long time!!! Ouch, that hurt!!! Again I agreed and apologized
We ended the conversation all friendly, but she is under real pressure here, and I felt sorry for her She is alone and trying to hold it all together, pressures of work, family, life, etc I want to help, but it would only add more pressure?
Not sure that om really helps the situation other than being a "nice guy", yeah he's that nice he was texting a married mother of 2 while we were together, I mentioned that to her, said it was the lowest of the low, she said nothing and didn't defend him!!
I think it's back to dark again, and try to avoid all contact with her? He's away again after the weekend for 5 weeks, things will calm down again, she won't be lying and rushing around to see him at his will, maybe she will then see the problems she is bringing on herself??
