Based on some of the feedback I've gotten from some people in this forum, and people elsewhere, I need to clarify what I'm looking for. And I think it's the result of such a long period of SSM and the lack of full sexual experience even when it was not SSM.
For example, advice to me about not dating until well after I had divorced my wife, etc., to allow a period for emotional readjustment, etc. I think that advice would apply to a lot of people who have had a reasonably good sex life up until, or near the point of divorce. Or at least it might apply to someone who knows what a really good sex life in a good relationship is all about. I'm not sure I do. Which affects my expectations in all kinds of ways, possibly in ways I'm not aware of. And maintaining a relationship in its current form with my wife for so many years has taught me to separate love and sex, probably more than I realize. And so what I'm most interested in, and curious about, is just having fun, frequent, and intense sex with a woman who is highly sexual. And I'd be ready for that at the drop of a hat. I don't need a period of emotional readjustment etc.
My reaction to all this talk about deeply committed love, etc. is perhaps like an 18-year-old guy's who's lacking sexual experience to the same degree as I. I mean, gee, I would like to just try a bunch of sexual positions for the first time in my life, see what it's like when a woman has an orgasm, learn from her how she likes it, and just see what it's like to have sex with a woman who likes sex. It's just that simple. That would be just a huge thrill for me. All this talk about waiting and emotionally readjusting and deeply committed relationships... I feel like an 18-year-old listening to a 60-year old giving advice to another 60 year old, in spite of the fact that I will be 60 before too long myself!
And to top it off, I read stuff about how women my age often don't find intercourse to be comfortable anymore, and so we old-timers must settle for "outercourse", and the suggestion that I'll probably need Viagra soon, and how it's all about emotions at this point and less about the sex, and men's andropause, and lack of energy, and is my T low commercials on TV. I've never heard such a big crock of stereotyped and erroneous assumptions. I just want to get laid, and often, and try a whole bunch of fun things for the first time! What's so hard to understand about that?
