Got an interesting text from W yesterday. I had politely asked her to please stop taunting me with the whole divorce thing. During the conversation, it was kind of hard to her being adamant about the D and I got a little teary. During her ranting, I just hung up. Shortly after I got this text…
The hanging up part = good...
The putting yourself in a position to even hear her rant ???
Hey, if you want to hear it and let it turn you inside out....then go for it...
I will tell you that the above , has a lot to do with what she spewed below....
Originally Posted By: broken5150
“Let go! Don’t make yourself suffer on my behalf. Im trying to be happy in my life. Do the same! We are all not perfect people. Who knows what the future brings but, I need this dissolution from you, so please comply and lets move on! Please sign the docs and get this over with.”
Script...
Look Sammy, you allow yourself to be the dartboard for her Pin-the Tail on the jackass err...Donkey
Originally Posted By: broken5150
Just three weeks ago, she was talking to a family member and she said that she didn’t want a D but, she needed me to change. Now shes pushing the D.
Of course she is gonna say that to family....
What did you expect her to say ?
" Hey, I'm gonna leave Sammy, and go on tour with David Lee , Sammy is a really good guy and all, but I have to do this to find out who I am, I take all the blame in this...."
Really ?
Originally Posted By: broken5150
I don’t understand how signing a document is going to bring her happiness. She’s already doing what she wants any way.
I went to my counselor yesterday and she explained to me how she is trying to find peace and happiness through changing her environment. Example (her looks, her marriage, her friends, her car, her career, OM etc etc…
Once again this morning, I go to pick up my kids to take them to school and she didn’t get them up on time. The kids have been late almost every day. She was always very anal about getting them to school on time. Now apparently, it looks like she could care less. But of course! She thinks it’s perfectly healthy for the kids to be bringing OM into the house already!
After visiting my counselor yesterday, I had left with my head a little more clearer.
All this non-sense of her saying that its been 20 years of misery IS nothing but an attempt to project.
I remember who she was and how she did things and most of all, how we loved each other.
During this year of separation, listening to my W talk, Im more and more convinced that this a MLC.
She has commented that she has wanted to be a
1) A professional dancer 2) A professional photographer 3) Join a roller derby team 4) Be a pro skater!
Now, she’s barely skating any more. All time is being spent with OM.
Now that I understand MLC, I look back and remember things within the last couple of years and I would ask myself “ What the heck is she doing?” especially after the time that she went to see Twilight dressed up like she was 17 again.
When the real hard times come, MLC is VERY hard to deal with. But with a little bit of strength and understanding, sometimes it’s downright comedic.
Do you really want me to break this down for you ?
So you think it is MLC....
Maybe it is , maybe it isn't...
And you say that you understand MLC....
Understanding it , and living it, are two entirely different things Sammy....
Everything that you wrote above...
You are putting a whole lot of blame on her for this. You can stay back and blame the MLCer for their poor choices , and sit quietly behind the scenes....
Hoping that one day, she will let you walk out onto the stage with her, at the VMA awards...
And if she doesn't, then you can be the victim in all of this..
