A little bit of an update. I've been maintaining virtually no contact with the stbx this week, except for a couple of texts about our D8.
Last night out of the blue, I was driving home from the gym and my stbx texted me asking me if I called my mother for her birthday. I am notoriously bad about forgetting dates. I politely thanked her for the reminder. She then asked what I was doing and told me they were just hanging out.
I replied and told her I was driving and had been thinking of asking if I could pick up D8 for an ice cream but that it was already kind of late and I decided not to.
She replied that it was still early enough to bring her one and that I could hang out for a few minutes to be with D8, so I quickly accepted.
I picked up a couple of ice creams and headed over. She did not tell D8 that I was coming so that it would be a surprise. D8 was very glad to see me and we had very enjoyable visit. The stbx sat and talked to me as well as if nothing had happened last week. I remained happy, cheerful, and tried to only talk about stuff pertaining to D8. I was glad and surprised to see the D8 interact with me so much based on what stbx told me this past Sunday.
As I got up to leave and walked to the door, the stbx gave me a playful smack on my rear. Then while at the door she talked to me for another 3-5 minutes. When I finally opened the door to leave, I ended up giving her a quick hug because I could tell she wanted one.
As I drove home, I had mixed feelings. I was elated that I got to see my D8 since I haven't seen her in five days. I was mad at myself for being so quick to accept the invite to go over and wondered if I should have made up an excuse that I was busy.
It seemed like my stbx was genuinely glad to see me. But I know five days isn't enough for things to turn around.
Was she bored? Was she lonely? Or was she subconsciously testing me to see how available I was and to reel me back in?
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
