However, they do indicate that lately you W has misgivings. As B has stated that could be her giving you an opening to move forward toward rebuilding a fuller relationship.
Because you feel honor bound by your promise, perhaps you could talk to her and ask her to look at the future and tell you if adding intimacy and sex to your life together could potentially make your marriage better. Tell her that you want to strengthen your marriage well prior to retirement, so you can both enjoy your golden years together.
As someone who is 62, who has adult independent children, I look forward to retirement someday. I know from friends who have retired that one element of retirement that causes stress is "free time" around ones spouse and spouse expectations. I have several friends who have retired and their wifes find that they are "under foot all day long." Other find that their wives has incredible lists of things that they expect them to do all day long so that they won't be underfoot and that their wife is a harder and more demanding "boss" than any they ever had at work.
Having been mentored by a number of retired friends, I think it is critical to get one's marriage strong prior to retirement as that change will put stress on most marriages.
Again, good luck to you.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
