Sorry, you totally missed my point. Victimhood is completely a mental outlook. You can't do anything to stop being a victim until you stop THINKING like one.
I think that's the impression you might get from the limited view of my life that this discussion presents. Outside of this discussion, "the problem" is not foremost on my mind and I have many richly reward things going on. I have chosen to be in this situation for the time being, and that is not thinking like a victim as far as I can see.
