KD, CS, JS : Nice to hear from you guys!! Thanks for all your suggestions. \
In_Shock, thanks for stopping by.
When i talked to daughter yesterday, i did mention to wife that she could tell me if she wanted any transfers from 'my' accounts. She started apologizing saying she did not know why she did it etc. Yea i know that from her That does not mean she is sorry. She's upset. But either way I was glad that i did not remain mute on it.
I think in my case the only way i can re-connect with my wife and hope to have a long marriage is if i can keep my 'manhood' so to speak, but in a mature way. I am slowly learning it and it does feel empowering.
But yea, unless something really bad happens...i tending more toward getting back with her. But i am in no hurry. I am gonna wait until she finds herself.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
That does not mean she is sorry. She's upset. But either way I was glad that i did not remain mute on it. 
