Yea Rick! I'm so glad D is willing to go. You're doing a good thing.

Based on my M situation, I'd say you need to learn how to negotiate more effectively with W - the key is concrete, specific terms and verbalized agreement. Let her know how important this is to you, ask her to schedule right away (by x day) and let you know the appt details. Suggest if she can't get to it by x you'll go ahead and set one up. At the risk of being repetitive you need to listen for and hear her agreement that she will set it up by x and let you know. It never hurts to add appreciation for her taking the role.

Would you see this as different from how you've interacted with her in the past? Think she'll see this as a change?

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.