What happens next part II?????

[Rick1963]

No 25 you did not hurt my feelings. I'm here in this forum to make changes. I read every response and other's sitch and try to learn from them. To be honest, some of what I do/done is just coming to light and have been noticing patterns with my father and brother. All 3 of us married strong women and all 3 of us behaved the same. We are dependent on them, sad to say that and blame them when things go wrong. I have been talking to my brother about what I have learned so far about me since he tends to do the same. He is having financial issues and fights with his W alot. I warned him to watch what he says and does or he may end up in a similar situation.

25 you are right on point about my behavior. Many times I depend on my W to take care of stuff and my excuse has been that she is home most of the time and I'm not. I couldn't fix what I didn't know was broken. So this is my baggage as you say I can look at it and see how I can change that. There are so many instances that I acted in the way I described above even when doing yard work. I would tell W I was going to trim the bushes but she did not like that idea so she would do it. So some of it is me some of it is her. So the bushes keep growing. This morning I talked to D and told her I want her to see a C. I said if I and mommy were having a hard time with what is happening that I think she might be too. She if you want me to see a C I will. I said we can try it out and see how you like it. I used Advina's words told her is something like a sports coach. She laughed.

Now is the other part that I have become aware of about me. When I decide to do something without W's approval or discussing it with her I get really anxious and afraid that she will be angry with me even if it is something that needs to be done.I feel like I'm walking on egg shells. And that fear has sometimes stopped me from doing things also. Not sure what it all means or how to explain it.

Now that my D has agreed to see a C. Do I make the appoinment or tell W that she has agreed. W said yesterday that she wanted to make the appoinment if D wanted to go? I need your input on this.


^^^^^^^This is what happens alot to us. The last sentence. WTH???