is there someone other than her, (or other than you) whom you can call when a check bounces? Like her personal assistant?
When my brother bounces checks to my h and I, (for a home our mother lives in which HE selected)
and HE gets perturbed when h or I call him and say "wth? Itd be easier if you just didn't send us checks at all, so we don't incur fees OR warn us so we don't cash it...." He sighs and intimates that we are inconveniencing HIM with our petty complaints about "another penalty"...
My bet is my brother is too embarassed to call ahead (but it's not like we won't find out.) But he turns it around on us.
and so does your w.
Plus in your w's case, she can get angry about the issue in general, b/c it's not something she "volunteered" to do. As she gets more embarrassed, she can convert that into anger at you...so much easier than regret!
But there's no way she can bounce a check, twice, and not be mortified.
Since we know guilt backfires, I guess humility isn't going to help you either.
But time will help. Let it pass. Don't make this more than it is.
She's embarassed and annoyed and probably sounded rude to you.
If she was over the top, she knows it.
I'd definitely contact her assistant for these types of things...for sure...
Hang in there, and remember this "incident" is on HER end...not yours.
So don't let this bother You more than it bothers her, okay?
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