I don't know, KD...SS22 gets very upset whenever anyone he has come to know is taken out of his life. In the 11 yeas we've been together he has had 9 TSS (Therapeutic Staff Support) counselors, and each time one would leave him he was deeply affected. This time his stepsister, stepbrother and stepfather are all being surgically removed.
I can't be 100% certain, but I'm pretty sure OM doesn't have a clear picture of what could be coming down the pike. Unfortunately my W would rather suffer - and let her sons suffer - than admit she made a terrible mistake and try to make things right. That way she can still play her role as the downtrodden victim - "Look what my terrible husband drove me to do!"
She has already lost her oldest son because of this crap; how much more damage does she need to inflict before she sees what she has become?
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
