Wife no longer in love with me - Part 3

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Just had a session with my DB Coach and went through all of last weekend's meeting with my W.
He seems to think that I'm in a better position than I think (doesn't feel like that!) but given she cried so much and couldn't handle talking, he feels she much still have an emotional connection to me and is grieving on some levels.

He did have a go at me for more 'chasing' with reference to 'let's try MC or work on this some more, I don't want to give up etc etc'. He's right, but its so hard to sit there and say nothing when I still see this sitch as ridiculous given how well we get along still.

Next steps: he suggests getting a key cut for her for our house and meeting up with her to give it to her to come and get her stuff - basically help her walk away more. I hate the thought of this, but I guess I have to.
Then, as she suggested, set another time with her to start the discussions on splitting assets.

And I have to validate her perception on things again - ie all the things I have done wrong (8 yrs ago!) and ask her how that made her feel and validate, validate.
With regards to any OM talk....will leave this for now. I don't want to spend money on a PI...she may be or she may not be..I would still like to think she is not (as everyone would I suppose), but its her life and if thats what she wants to do then so be it. besides, even if I find out there is one, then all it will do is upset me more and cause me to do things I'm sure I will regret one day.