PLEASE!!! Need help quick! Calling all vets!

[AJM]

Tad? Did you see Drew's tag line? It is worth seeing again if not.

They are right Tad. You have given her too much power over you. It's part of the relationship you had. It's happened over the years. Slowly crept in.

She gave that power back to you and you keep trying to give it to her. She can't handle it right now or ever. Who knows? Who cares? In the here and now, you have to take that power back to better balance things. Regardless of how the relationship works out.

I'm not saying be an ass. I'm saying take the power for your self. Take the power to be happy and embrace it. Revel in it. Be the man that Tad was meant to be. Be the leader. Be the example you are anyway.

So she left. So she blames you. So she projects her problems on you (at least when you two talk). Does that surprise you? It doesn't surprise me. When I look at your situation, I see it. I'm sharing that objective view with you so that you see it.

Shift the focus Tad. She can't handle it. She won't. She shouldn't anyway as that is too much for anyone to have to bear.

I can see from your thoughts and posts you are a strong person to begin with, but you are fighting it for some reason... Find that strength and be you regardless of what you perceive and what you see around you. Change the focus and the world looks very different Tad.

Do it sooner than later. That's part of detaching.

AJ