MK, I am glad you posted. I was looking for your thread today and could not find it.
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So i have decided to go with the counsellor for some sessions. See how she behaves. If i dont see anything that i like anymore, I am planning on asking my lawyer to proceed ahead. Any feedback?
IMO go to the C sessions and evaluate what you want to do. Do not set a timeline in haste, and put more emphasis on her actions and the C’s advice than what is spoken. Try and find a solution based C I do not have DR here or I’d look up the pages in it where this is mentioned. Speak with several before settling on one….
Leave her out of the pick the C process? She needs to trust the C to open up and begin to build solutions also, else it is wasted time. IMO include her after you’ve narrowed the field, your call.
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We still share the same back with different accounts.
Yea, we still do too. My L advised me not to close the accounts. I have forty seven dollars at risk here. It sounds as though you are keeping your risk minimized also. So she rattled the cage. Try and act nonchalant “as if” about it. If she is anything like my STBX she poked the bear and is watching for the reaction. Don’t give her the satisfaction.
Child Support – Yes. I agree fund your own college fund for her.
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In January wife came one day andtook everything that every belonged to our daughter.
OK, so this just chaps my backside. It is just wrong. You’ve got to handle this right. Calmly with integrity and honor don’t lose your cool about it during a C session, and don’t itch to bring it up.
The loss of trust this caused is probably the main issue all can agree upon. Let the C lead. If you need to, discuss these kinds of things in a private session. You’ll likely have at least one.
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I'll always live with the fear that my wife might again pull on more stunt like this on me.
No you won’t, not always, you’ll either rebuild the trust a married couple has or you will not.
If not you’ll still be your daughters Dad! Never forget that!
You’ve come a long way. You’ve done most of the heavy lifting however this turns out you are a better person.
Do not sell yourself cheaply. People generally value more those things they have to work hard to obtain.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
