Nearly 5 years but who is counting?

[forward]

MMF,
What struck me is that your mom is reporting things back to you about your X's behavior. Do you really want to allow that?

Your X seems to feel that you are still attached. I guess I wonder--can you forge a new R with her if you never really severed the old one?

As far her not being happy until you are dating someone else--well, whether you are or not is none of her business now--it probably wouldn't hurt to close off her view into your life.

I did not date for years after X moved out. And I respect what you are saying--that you want to focus on being w/kids. I did that and do not regret it. But I also spent time really looking at the R. It has not been easy for me to let X go, and in some ways I still have not entirely--although I do feel that I am able to see the R more objectively. There are still times when I miss him. But I also realize that there are aspects of him that are part of that package and that I do not miss.

The person who I thought I was in a happy R with is also the person who is capable of being very self-centered. MLC may be an explanation but I am not sure that I respect X any more in terms of how he treated both me and D.