W is moving out.....life goes on...

[In_Shock]

yeah guys. this is also what my IC (who also sees W and OW...Remember, small town much BS) told me about W. *i've been concerned since that time that IC has broken boundaries and 25YEARS and I have discussed --- I probably need a new IC for privacy reasons....

Anyway, IC said to me "W has a lot of unhappiness inside that has nothing to do with you...sometimes people think by doing something completely different.....they will feel ok"

Apparently MIL sees that new R with OW isn't making W any happier.... It does help me to put it in perspective and see more confirmation that it's not just ME making W == who I love dearly -- unhappy. I've had that on my mind for a long time..... even though cognitively i KNOW i cannot MAKE someone else happy or unhappy...etc... Still, I love her and do want her to be happy. For all her problems and for all the crap she's put me through lately, W is a good person and i still love her with all my injured heart.