Drew, it is the easier way out if thats what happens......but in a way it would be a way to end this pain and move forward, knowing that yeah I contributed to my D, but also I tried so much to save our M and did everything she asked of me. I feel that when she moved out in February, there was never any intent to come back and she strung me along for 3 mths, "getting her feelings back" when it wasn't going to happen. I know you're frustrated with me!

CS, despite how it looks, I am doing a lot to fix myself. My W even noticed it last weekend. I am spending a lot of time at IC identifying and working on why I am in this place. Yep, I'm finding it hard to detach as for some stupid reason I still love my W so much, but having the thought of her with an OM makes it easier for me to want her out of my life.

Harrier....you're right re the idea about OM, but I think it is also probably an awakening that I have been pretty foolish to think there is no one and she is still this sweet innocent girl. I also thought she would have th decency and respect for me to tell me, but then who am I kidding she hasn't been decent or respectful during the last 6 mths.

Thanks guys!


M 35
W 31
Separated 2/2011 but still together
Ended it 4/2011
Together 8 yrs
Married 3.5 yrs
Lawyers involved 6/2011