the challenge is two fold. One challenge exists b/c you are in piecing and trust me, I understand. That's the REAL challenge and you can do things to help (attend Retrovaille!)
the other challenge is age--the difference in age of your kids, and your age:
two things I know about the difference in ages that you need to know.
The kids can be close. My 3 kids are 25, 22, and 14. They are ALL close to each other now. usually one was closer to the youngest than the other, but that would shift.
The older ones adored their baby sister and she looked up to them and she still does. They are pretty much buddies and the youngest visits the older ones in their dorm or city, and gets treated to the sights.
They play online games across country (Yes, s25's argument for us to buy a PS3 worked, but he was right about it helping them stay close b/c he lives on the other coast-and they really do play often, like 2-3 a week)
And obviously I was close to your age when I had our last one. If it weren't for a back injury, I'd have had more. Keeps me feeling younger, I swear. And
YESTERDAY I got a new niece!! My brother is 57...my sil is 50 and it's her first child, his 2nd. HIs first is 21 y/o. The baby and mom are both healthy.
I don't know what it cost or how it happened, exactly, but my SIL is thrilled and my brother seems stoked.
It was not his idea but he's happy now, truly. He'll retire in 5 years so ironically, he'll have more time with this child than his first.
This really Is a good thing. Yes the timing is wacky but Please know to be grateful anyhow.
Your little scrapper must really want to be in the world, maybe they'll bring you the motivation you need to piece well.
Attend Retrovaille if at all possible. It's very productive and will help arm you for a stressful event in ANY marriage, let alone one right after a crisis.
Enlist the help of your other children--for awhile, they'll be into it. My older kids still are.
Reassure your w when you can, of whatever it is she needs reassuarance of. No matter what others say, I still think a child is ALWAYS a bigger deal to the wife, b/c she frickin' carries it, births it, and 9 times out of 10 does the bulk of the work.
See about opportunities you will have with the newborn/baby/toddler, for 180s.
And make sure you still have date nights that cultivate and foster a deep bonded COUPLE who stays connected.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
