Mae3774, I don't think anything in life is one size fits all. When I tried to detach for a few days my H was miserable acting. Yesterday I went about business as usual and gave him attention, cooked a meal he had been craving, etc. We had a great night. He let me pick a movie to watch (even though I fell asleep lol). This morning he cuddled me in bed. Today he initiated a little "afternoon delight" and told me he was trying hard to get things going in the feelings department. He left for work on a cheerful note. Of course on the other hand maybe a couple days of slight detachment pushed him to be in a better mood towards me?
Either way all is well today. I am taking St Johns Wort to help my mood so I can eat and take care of myself. I am doing things to help me feel better about myself. I am looking for work I can do and still homeschool my kids. I am not nagging my H about the EA and just praying it dies a natural death.I am trying not to be pushy but I am showing affection and going about life as if my world is NOT falling apart. I am trying to make my husband feel like "The Man" again and not take over and treat him like a kid. I think these are the best things I can do right now. I guess I am kind of picking and choosing from what our pastor is advising and what I have picked up here and seeing what seems to work.
