Hey..Shiny..sorry to hear you are sick...colds don't usually get worse..maybe a trip to Dr.is in store..I had a the cold/cough thing 7 weeks ago, and still have a slight cough and stuff, so they are hanging on..
Otherwise, how are you doing? I don't come around much anymore..seems that there is nothing new in my r that is worth talking about...I feel like I am in a slump..post holidays or something. Take care of yourself
Hey Shiny. Hope you are feeling better, but if you start to run a fever or if your cough is getting worse, please see a doctor as you could be developing an infection which can lead to pneumonia or worse.
Otherwise, rest, fluids and tylenol...and patience (where have I heard that before )
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
I've been pretty much a lurker since I joined these boards last summer. I did post today on Newcomers. The subject is "Rebuilding Trust". If you could stop by, I would appreciate it.
I've been going over old posts and found your thread "What do I want from life?". In the thread you mention that you were able to do 180's on your anger, freakin out over the small stuff and criticism. All of those traits are also a problem for me too.
How were you able to overcome them? Did your C help - did you find just the right book? I would appreciate hearing about it.
You guys in Piecing inspire me.
Thanks loads,
Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
Nice to know someone's gaining something from my old threads!
The 180's I speak of came rather suddenly. The bomb of Aug '02 pretty much wiped anger out of my emotional repertoire.
Hearing what CJ had to say about how my sarcasm, anger, bitterness, controlling...how it had affected him...how I didn't seem aware or concerned about it (it's "just the way I am!").
It was just a HUGE humbling experience. This was all BEFORE I got my hands on DR.
Of course I HAD been an avid reader of self help books, spirituality books etc long before this. But the REALITY of how my behaviours affected the one person I cared most about really shook me out of my fog.
The Anger, Control, Sarcasm...all of it was based in FEAR, anxiety, perfectionism, selfishness (sort of a sense of entitlement...like if he loves me he'll love ALL of me...even the parts that are squashing him )
I KNEW about cognitive/behavioural therapy and the power of self talk. I dug into Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of NOW" to re-learn some meditative techniques and to help me see the "broader picture", live in the present and LET GO of that over which I had no control. (Little things used to irritate me beyond all reason )
How could I forget!!! I FINALLY got adequate medical treatment for my anxiety (Generalized Anxiety Disorder)...Celexa 20 mg a day . Mary, this made a HUGE difference in my ability to NOT over-react to things, to shut off that infernal internal anxiety driven dialogue.
I had a few slips...it's to be expected. But unlike before I would ACKNOWLEDGE what I'd done/said/tone etc. and apologize for it. (Ironically enough, I noticed sarcasm emerging from CJ, unlike him, and wondered aloud if because there was a sarcasm void in the house, he had to fill it!...it was said gently and we both laughed )
The internal changes were for ME...at the beginning, for several months there was NO certainty that CJ would be sticking around. He certainly didn't "buy into" the emerging me for quite some time. But eventually, he couldn't ignore the fact that I had changed, that I continue to change.
Perhaps I'll pop over and copy this onto your thread, Mary. I haven't been out of the Piecing Forum in months.
I had considered getting the "Power of Now". Read an excerpt of it somewhere on the internet - guess I'll go ahead and get a copy. I ordered a copy of "The Power of Optimism" in November, still haven't received it - kind of ironic isn't it!
I'm trying not to let the little things bother me, especially something I have no control over, like the traffic here in the winter.
Thanks for stopping by my thread.
Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
So glad I stopped by today. I have the "Power of Now" reserved at the library but have been putting off picking it up and today is the last day they will hold it sooo you can guess where I'll be stopping on my way home from work today.
I can so relate to your last post!!! I too, was sarcastic, controlling, nagging and thought H should accept ALL of me no matter what BUT H had other plans!!!! KaBOOOOM!!!
Ha - ha - choo ... ... and chance of catcing a cold over the internet?! <JK> DD10 gave me hers. (Always have to refer to them as darling under circumstances such as this.)
Just realized I haven't drop by yet this year! Had to dig you up from page 3.
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. Mary, this made a HUGE difference in my ability to NOT over-react to things, to shut off that infernal internal anxiety driven dialogue.
KaBOOOOM!!!
... and chance of catcing a cold over the internet?! <JK> 
DD10 gave me hers. (Always have to refer to them as darling under circumstances such as this.)