What happens next part II?????

[Rick1963]

Thanks for the advise guys. 25 is right I have only been trully DBing a couple of weeks and have back slid many times. Since my M is hanging on a thread I can only do the LRT at this time.

BUT today my M, R, WAW. Me, impending D, my depression, dispar etc. Have to be put on hold. M biggets concerns is with my D14. This morning while W was making us breakfast I was watching some TV when D14 walked into the room. This is how it went.

M- Where did you come from didn't see you come downstairs.(I was smilling I love that kid more than my life)

D- I slept downstairs on the couch (the couch in the living room where my WAW has beeen sleeping for 3 months)

M- I said why? ( D was one her way upstairs to get ready for school)

D- Because this cubix rubix (not sure of spelling) keeps mysteriously appearing in my room. (W was in ktichen listening)

M- What's a rubix cubix?

D- It's a toy (I remembered what it was)

M- Can I see it?

D- It's in the trash.

W- who trew it out

D- Mommy and I'm not sleeping in my room again

D went upstairs and I said to W maybe she had more than one. W laughed and than said "that's what I sadi". W got relly sad. My D's statements freaked me out. Now I know something is wrong. She is afraid of toys in her room and it broke my heart. I went upsatris and gave her hug and told her all will be fine and I'm there always to watch over her and not to worry. However, this weekend prior to going to bed, D and W where looking out the office window. I said what's going on. D said she heard people banging on the house.

This is the convo W and I went.

M- I am worried can I now bring a counselor?

W- I never said you couldn't is just the way you said it.( a few days earlier I asked her if she was ok with it. She did what she always does, blank stare and no answer either way)

M- The way I said it. ( I stopped my self had a feeling she wanted to blame me so I said this) I want to help her with this. I can have a counselor come to the house or she can talk to my counselor.

W- I will get her her own counselor I'm sure your counselor is good but she knows about your stuff and I don't think its a good idea.

M- I understand that. let me know how I can help

W- I will see if I can get her an appoinment locally. I was thinking of taking her to a counselor last year when she was having anxitie attacks during school presentations.

I thought about her last statement. She told me in passing as usual that D was not doing presentations in school due to fear. I know all about public speaking all 3 of us hate them. But I was surprised that W never talked to me that she was thinking of taking her to a counselor. When D made those comments I went into the I needed to know more, and almost did what I usually did, interrogate. It became very clear to me as to why I blow up on W. It goes something like this. I will either make a suggestion or talk to W about something that might need doing. Whether stuff around the house, D's schooling etc. I usually am met with either a blank stare, I don't know or out right rejection of a suggestion. So either way I usually think that W is saying NO. She usually does things without me knowing or discussing it with me. perfect example, last summer I said to W that we should have the AC system maintained. She said why spend the money if it ain't broke. So last summer we had a heat wave and the AC went. Cost me 600$ bacause it was an emergency call. If I had it checked earlier in the season it would have cost 200$. So when W does not say to go ahead I just take it as she is saying no. But when sh@@@t hits the fan and I say I told you so she blames me for not doing something as in this morning regarding getting a counselor. I hope my kid survives this unharmed. I hope W sees that she is hurting my D's life, me and her own life.