It has been 3 months since my w dropped the bomb. A period of time that has been so horrible and taciturn that I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I've heard many here say the same thing,and it is true.
As part of my GALING, i have been attending two divorce/seperated support group which meet twice a month, and periodically holds seminars. The groups have been a godsend, I've met some really great people who have been very helpful in giving their advice, and support, much like the people here on this board. One group meets on friday evenings, and one on mondays. I attended one of the meetings last night,it is interesting to compare and contrast the two. The Friday meeting is at a church, and is much less structured than the second. It takes place over two hours and very rarely mentions faith or religion. This past friday was the most intense meeting I have been to, there were two people in the group who were positively shell shocked by their experience, both had spouses who left them suddenly.
Last nights meeting(the first one I have attended), was much more structured. It is held at a Catholic church and is run by a group called Divorce Care. It is a 13 week program that seems to weave the subjects of faith and religion thoughout the evening. Each of the groups have their strenghts. One thing that has struck me though, is that even years later, some of these people are coming to the meeting. To me this is scary and daunting. I'm wondering if the pain ever truly ends, Even those who initiated the divorce are still grieving. It makes me wish that my s could have had the opportunity to see a meeting like this before she thought about dropping the bomb..... Oh well, wishful thinking.
Anybody else out there have similar experiences, observations of their support groups? Just curious.
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
