Hey Captain I ask you a similar question, how much is your wife willing to overlook in order to get you off her back? Or is she one of those that expects you to take a vow of celibacy with her?
In a hypothetical scenario if you were to ask
"so you want me to never have sex again?"
What would she respond? Would she coldly say yeah? Would she say it's no sex or D?
I guess the reason I ask is because I wonder what type of attitude your W along with SSMguy's have on "your needs". Their attitudes on this would help us figure out what approach to take.