trying to see the big picture

[AloneAt35]

Tank! Its good to hear from you...you know we worry.

I am sorry to hear you've been in and out of the hospital, I was hoping you were home for good.

Okay, SS15 sounds like he's getting good support. Your kids are going through a lot, A LOT. You know, are there any groups for them in your area?...like support groups for kids whose parents are sick? I know there is nothing COOLER when your 15 than going to a support group, but still, I'm a firm believer that misery loves company and it never hurts to have support and then more support.

Also, I think your STBXW is an addict. I think it explains a lot. Does your W think she has a substance abuse problem?

I used to have this hat. It said, "I don't have a drinking problem. I drink, I get drunk, I fall down. No problem!" Luckily, I didn't have a drinking problem, but I think your W might. You know my mother was very similar to your W and she was a substance abuser. When it stopped, she became so much better.

Ultimately, its NOT YOUR PROBLEM and I don't think you should make it your problem, but it sounds like your inlaws are aware that your W is using...do they think it is out of hand?

Again, NOT YOUR PROBLEM. Just keep looking after your own well-being and it sounds like she stays sober during visitations, so that is what matters.