Youngster's WAW Still Chooses OM!

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West
 
You are right she is wanting status checks, checking ur FB, texting.....
 
Now I won't tell you what to do b/c that is up to you so this is just my personal take.
 
But I think your W very much views you as her savior
 
Any time a problem pops up in her A or her life, you are there, could be anything.  Just knowing she can get a hold of you is keeping her going.
 
IMO I think you should go dark, now I mean really dark, how far is up to you.
 
I have gone as far as changing my cell number and email to prevent contact
 
My WW knows there is a path home, but while OM is there, I can no longer be apart of that.
 
What led to that?  Something very similar to your situation....
 
Her constantly contacting me like clockwork, we would talk, meet up and she would just unload her problems.
 
Now this may not be totally DB, regardless its something to consider.
 
I think if you were to go totally dark.......this A.....might break itself up in a matter of months
 
She has told you about all the problems with OM that is a huge hint and she keeps on contacting you b/c OM can't deal with everything in her life......
 
 
You two are separated...there are no children........I think a big dose of reality might be a wake up call for her.
 
And I wouldn't necessarily look at not answering her calls or texts as vindictive or cowardly, satisfying her every whim is not your job.......remember who left who.
 
Throw this back on her some......maybe even after she leaves and it was a good experience.........wait for her to contact you......and just simply say " you know this past weekend gave me a lot to think about, I would like some space right now, talk to you later."
 
That will drive her crazy and make her wonder......what is up......I thought things went well.....
 
That is what we want.....make the old wheels start turning in her head.
 
Make sure you are looking darn good when you two meet up, be all dressed up, even if you have no where to go act as if you do.  When she asks and she will.....just out with friends......that's it and change the subject by asking her a question.