I seriously hope you were joking about the arrangement of multiple wives appealing to you, as you seem to have your hands full with one wife.
Maybe you'll identify a new problem with me, but I'll just be honest and say, sorry but it does appeal to me. And no, I don't have my hands full with my wife, especially literally! ;-)
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Having an affair, IMO, doesn't really make anything better. In fact it might be a subconscious method of sabatoging a marriage.
And what, cause my wife to cut me off sexually? ;-) Just kidding, I couldn't resist.
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When I was contemplating possibly divorcing my wife, in addition to promising myself that I would be in a loving relationship by a certain date, I also promised myself that I would would not date or have a relationship until well after a divorce was finalized. From what I have learned about relationships, and the grieving process one really does need to take some time to get over things before one gives one's heart free reign.
I understand that as far as deeply loving and emotional relationships. But quite aside from that, it should be mentioned that many people these days are quite OK with friends-with-benefits hookups, especially for these in-between times. I know many will say such things always end badly, etc., but that's just not true for some people.
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Ssmguy, I would like to go back to something that 25yearsmlc asked you a few pages back and that is that you probably need to really dig deeper to find out what is at the root of your wife's problems.
That's a tough one because she needs to want to help with that. If she had been willing to discuss that, I might have solved my problem long ago and I wouldn't be posting here.
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If you have given up, that I understand.
Not given up. Just tell me something I haven't tried.
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I might be wrong, but when I compare your responses to those of the Captain's you don't seem like you have fully accepted and come to peace with your position on your ssm situation and honoring your status as a married man.
Not sure exactly what all that means. But no, I'm certainly not at peace with my ssm situation.
