Thanks Finah and In Shock - it's humbling the support you get here.
Finah, some comments: - I am still not sure about OM, I will find out, but it is just so hard to believe, but again, I am probably just naive and foolish. But if its the case, then it is definitely over: I would never want her back. - A lot of her comments are very valid and I can see and understand why she left and how I made her feel. I acknowledge everything I did wrong with her and can see why I pushed her away. - She is compromising splitting assets as there is no rush, because in Australia you can't divorce for 12 mths, so we don't have to do anything until next February. - I think the only reason she has me on her mind, and it would be sparingly is, is because she worries about me - she has told people that. - I honestly don't think she is on the fence, she engaged a lawyer, she keeps saying she 'wants to move on and just put this all behind us' - As I mentioned, she looks at every memory of us as tainted and finds fault in things, nothing was good now according to her. She is completely crazy as we had some great times, many in fact and were so close for so long. She now puts that down to her being young when she moved here and was looking for support. She just seems to be making sh!t up.
Yes she probably is with another guy and yes I have been completely played for a fool. Actually thinking about that makes me detach easier, as I get so angry and p!ssed at her I never want to see her again. I am a very trusting and loyal person. To find out she has betrayed that loyality I have given to her would be the final nail in the marital coffin for us.
M 35 W 31 Separated 2/2011 but still together Ended it 4/2011 Together 8 yrs Married 3.5 yrs Lawyers involved 6/2011