TJB... the LRT in the same house is tough but doable and the dark thing is too. So for example, my wife was gone last weekend and I did some GAL. Didn't tell her. S stayed overnight at my mom's. I got in about 2am. Friends I was with share some common friends with my W. I know it will get back to her. But I'm not telling her. Same with the game. Just texted her that we wouldn't be home but not what we were doing. This week on Thursday I'm planning to take the kids to a night parade we have nearby that's cool to watch. Going to see if anyone wants to tag along. Not going to tell her. Let her get home to an empty house. If she wants to know what we're doing she can call or text, or she can actually talk to me once in a while. Otherwise I'm going to live my life how I want to live my life.
I love the night parade and I know the kids will. She might grump about keeping them out late on a school night (we'll be home by 9 or 9:30), but that's what Dad's do once in a while right? We toss aside the rules to do something cool and fun
As far as the LRT... I say very little right now. I say hi, good night, and talk logistics. I only do #1 and #2 because the kids are around and it would seem odd to them to not see that. I don't text her during the day or send her emails or FB messages unless absolutely necessary. Any advanced logistical stuff (like finance stuff) I email to her and then tell her if she'd like to discuss she certainly can talk to me.
In the morning I get up about 15 minutes before her and get out the door for my exercise. I make sure it takes 45 minutes to exercise so that I get home about 10-15 minutes before she goes to work. We usually cross paths in the bathroom as I'm jumping in the shower... which serves the second purpose that she can visually see what my GAL is doing for me ;-)
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD
