Wow, you're a trooper for sure! Big kudos for sticking it out for a year. Some people just don't have the guts or the patience, but you're obviously very strong.
To me, it seems pretty obvious that he's still into you and ponders the idea of continuing the relationship, but he seems unhappy and wants to think that everything would be better if he just cut his ties with you. This seems to be the underlying theme behind all WAS: surely leaving your R with your S will lead to the true happiness that awaits, right?
Have you thought about dialing back some of the friendly, intimate stuff after a while (i.e. letting him kiss you, letting him peek in the shower, etc.)? If he thinks he doesn't have to work for it, he probably won't respect having it until it's gone.
