W had another rough day today, but said she wasn't in a bad mood, just tired. After talking with my IC counselor today about the fact that things were going well and she hadn't brought up moving out or anything, she brought it up tonight.
She said that considering the weekend and the past few weeks made her think about a lot of things, but still didn't change the way she felt about me. She then asked what the plan was for me moving out. She asked if it was for me to stay until the end of the year. I said I don't know we hadn't really talked about it, and that was pretty much it.
She is concerned because she is giving advice to other people that if you want things to work out, they can if you are willing to put the work in. She hears herself saying that, and is thinking (according to her sister) that she is conflicted about what to do and taking her own advice. But then somewhere along the way today she reinforced in her own mind that she still felt the same way and wants to be done.
That's what confuses me, and her sister. She was conflicted during lunch today, when she had the talk with her sister, but tonight had resolved to stay on course. I'm not sure what the difference was, but it doesn't really change anything for me. I said I understand, and that I'm just going to keep doing what I'm doing with no expectations or pressure.
And I will do just that. As 25years said, time and consistency are key. I'm here until the end of the year, and 3 more months of this type of relationship will hopefully give her pause. She is still convinced that she has nothing left for me, and the only way that can change (if possible) is with time and consistency.
I just wish she'd open up a little and see the possibility of a good relationship. Ah well, if it happens it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't.
