Since I started DBing W no longer kisses me godbye in the morning and I'm starting to wonder if I'm doing the right thing here?
Why on earth would you expect her to kiss you goodbye? The woman considers herself separated from you!
When I was involved in an EA, I would not undress in front of my H b/c I considered myself emotionally divorced from him.
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I want to talk to my W about our R. The urge is really strong today and feeling sick to my stomach.
That's b/c you like to put all the cards out on the table and resolve everything by talking. It will not work this time. I repeat.....it won't work! If you bulldoze on and have a R talk anyway...you will feel better for the emotional release...and she will seem to be okay with most of it (or so you think). You'll go to bed thinking things are better b/c of the talk. But then the morning comes and you find your W has turned to a block of ice.
The same "urge" has been played out hundreds of times by other LBH's and it never works with a WAW! You need to get out there and GAL, stop acting the part of a victim, and start behaving like a confident male who deserves so much better than her excuse of a wife.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
