Stillness

[aeolianchaos]

Hey JS,

Thank you for your thoughts.

I like that proverb! My intention is to keep doing what is working and tweak things if I need to. Thus far I am not sure if what I'm doing is working or if my WAW is just .

I tend to think that yes, the WAW is someway trying to assuage their own guilt. In my WAW's case I am deeply suspicious this is a way of "cleaning" up her rep by being able to say to others "We're still good friends."

Of course, my question is - what kind of friendship is that?

It is funny she says "We grew up together" because yes, in a chronological sense we did. However I think I've done a lot more growing up in the past 6 months (mostly w/o her) than I did in the past decade.

In a past conversation she said that getting D was a grown up decision, and having the A was a grown-up mistake. I find it curious that in her mind, she needs to validate herself or try to present herself as a 'grown-up.'

This 'grown-up' thing has been a theme in her life.. when we married she would argue with her mother "I'm a married woman.. I'm a grown up... stop telling me how to live my life.." I am pretty ignorant when it comes to family of origin stuff, but damn if I don't perceive some kind of thing going on there.