I'm in shock, found out he has pursued OW, help

[angel61]

Yes, a friend once told me it will be a big deal only because you make it so. And sometimes we do slip so that we can learn.....

I have slipped so many, many times that people are tired of sending me 2x4's. But what else can you do..just pick yourself up. Play it cool .... your H is trying to recover. You know what my H just told me? That when he ended it with OW the first time a year ago, it could have gone OK if not because of my actions... which made him feel rebellious and made him contact her again.

But honestly, I don't beieve him. Whatever I would have done he would have gone right back and talked to her anyway. In the meantime, we still are learning, and I did need that time or else I would not be having all the relizations that I am having now.