aeolianchaos I'm having one of those days.The lack of sleep is the issue. Have not called to discuss R or anything else. Impulsive I am I agree but admitting to it and working on it.
Journaling
3 weeks ago a co-worker whom I have not spoken to in years contacted me via FB.He called me today. He is 61. He told me what has been happening to him, it blew me away. He got hit with everything at once like myself. (My father died in May and W and I had a spat in June which brought here.) His mother died in 2009 and his W asked for a D around the same time. He said he D July 2010 and lost his job in August. Said his W had been upset because he is unable to maintain a job. He does have poor work habits usually. I was also his supervisor for a while. Says he has not been able to get a decent job in over a year. He is also a musician and makes some money doing that. He said that he was not really willing to make changes and that his W may have worked on the M if she believed that he would make some changes.That she told him so. But he was unwilling or didn't know how. He said that his W had gone on a vacation and he had met a woman at a dance and since his W had asked for a D and were kind of separated decided to bring her home and have sex. He thougth it was ok. W returned from vacation a day early and caught him. He said that she was really angry and that she told him that he was still married and that it was wrong even though she had filed. I told him about my sitch and he was shocked. I told him that I am working on changing myself in hopes of saving myself and the M. I wish my W would say the same, that if she saw serious changes she would work on the M. The sad thing is that my W has not said anything along those lines and has not given any hopes.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
