Made it through the weekend. I never contacted her. I avoided all social media so I wouldn't see anyone reaching out to her or her responding. One of our mutual friends (that is aware of what is going on...technically I guess would be more considered my W's friend even though I knew her first) contacted me yesterday "just to check on me." I told her I was fine. She asked what I've been up to and I just told her about me volunteering at the shelter and my new potential job opportunities. We talked about me wanting to do mission work...that kinda thing. I never acted "down" and I made it clear that I'm doing ok. She said she was happy for me and glad to hear I'm doing well. Highly doubt she was "fishing" for info for my W.
Sunday actually turned out to be ok. I went to my DivorceCare group and the topic was on Reconciliation. It was good for me and helped me to reaffirm that it was best I didn't contact her. Reconciliation takes two. Right now, it's only me. It's interesting because like jb, I'm the only guy in my group most days but the ladies welcome me and the group leader even told me in front of the group yesterday that they'd all gone out to eat for lunch last week and were talking about the fact that they admired my commitment and dedication to my M and the fact that I was going to the "right places" to get my help. That felt good to hear.
I watched some football and pretty much lounged around all day. Of course there was the inevitable sighting of OM #1 but that's fine. I took it in stride and never let myself get down. At least his team lost yesterday (even though he scored). Sunday night a friend not as privy to all the details said he ran into my W on Sat night at a club...said she tried to act like they were all buddy buddy and he kind of had to let her know they were never really that close. He said it was kind of odd. He doesn't know the details of our situation but he's only spoken to her once over the phone and that was when we were in college.
I'd actually put in to have today off and next Monday off back in January...the plan was that I was going to do something for my W for both her birthday this past weekend and our anniversary next weekend...I forgot to take it off the calendar. At any rate...I have today off so I slept in. Did a devotional this morning. Ran a couple errands. Waiting on some clothes to finish washing now. Catching up on some school work before class tonight.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
Sunday night a friend not as privy to all the details said he ran into my W on Sat night at a club...said she tried to act like they were all buddy buddy and he kind of had to let her know they were never really that close. He said it was kind of odd. He doesn't know the details of our situation but he's only spoken to her once over the phone and that was when we were in college.